ADHD: Breakthrough Communication Skills That Will Improve You By 90% And Build Confidence
Focus will improve when you are communicating with others and really listening to them using a special communication tip. It really works for me.
Communication skills with characteristics of ADHD will improve by 90% depending on how focused you are. If you really focus on skills and tips, you will become a very skilled communicator. Using values instead of feelings is the secret.
First you will need a list of values/needs. Put the list next to your phone, computer, and anywhere you might be talking to people. It will be very helpful as you look up words to use until you learn this list.
You may want to practice this listening skill before you go out into the world. Pick a place to eavesdrop on a few people, such as a restaurant, a meeting, or a park. These people are your unpaid practice. however, it is very valuable to improve yourself.
You can put the list of needs in front of you. As people talk, look down the list and find a value that satisfies, like: someone is talking to someone else. Now choose the word that may or may not be satisfactory. Now in your head silently guess the need. Again, they may or may not be satisfying value.
Guess only one value from the list. The best part of this learning is that you don’t need to be right. it’s a guess. So you say to yourself in one question, “Are they wanting __________?” That’s it, as you are building a trusting connection with this person and the need.
You may want to offer some advice or a suggestion to this person. STOP! One piece of advice is not to do it. it’s disastrous. Focus, focus, focus on their values/needs. Don’t try to fix them. This comes later, unless they figure out their own solution. Just focus on their values.
The other point of this is that the more values you try to guess, the deeper you go into the conversation. They will probably talk more deeply than you or what they can imagine. Why? You’ve built an instant amount of confidence just by focusing on your values.
In fact, they will enjoy your listening and how you value what they are talking about. You may need to stop them if you’re getting tired, but most of the time you’ll also be energized. Enjoy the energy and confidence they are getting.
