Family chores for kids, teens, and even dads
Helping around the house teaches all family members the importance of contributing to a team. For children and teens, it also instills a sense of worth and competence, both of which help develop better self-esteem. When dads contribute regularly, it reduces the burden on mom, shows he is part of the team, and sets an important example for his children.
Many parents don’t have their children do household chores until they reach their teens, and this makes implementing them that much more difficult. Start early so children grow up with the expectation that household chores will be normal. Younger children can help sort laundry, make beds, and clean toys, while older children can vacuum, unload the dishwasher, and take out the trash. At around twelve years old, children can handle almost all household chores, and when they are old enough to drive, sending them out on simple errands is entirely appropriate.
It’s normal to find it difficult to implement common tasks for your children, but don’t let that stop you from doing it, especially with teens. Teens tend to be busier with school, part-time jobs, and very active social life outside the home, making it easier for parents to let go of their regular household chores.
How to Get Kids, Teens, and Even Dad to Contribute to Family Chores:
Start early and be consistent. If children have grown up with the expectation that household chores are normal, they will meet less resistance along the way.
Lead by example. Show younger children exactly what you want them to do by demonstrating the task at hand and racking up praise when they finish. Give teens task-specific instructions so they know exactly what is required, and be sure to thank them when they constantly remember to fulfill their responsibilities.
Ask for help. Sometimes all you need to do is ask your spouse for help. Your partner may be used to you taking on most of the household chores, or may not be aware of something that needs to be done around the house (even if it’s obvious to you). Just ask.
Studies definitely show that children and adolescents who participate in family chores and take on family or community responsibilities are ultimately happier with themselves and with their families, have better family values, higher self-esteem, and grow up to become most productive members of society. Families who work together at home also have a better bond with each other. Cleaning the kitchen, pulling weeds, or shoveling the driveway are great opportunities to chat about your day, or life in general, while working with your family members.
