How to heal after domestic violence
Domestic violence, by definition, involves the physical and usually verbal abuse of one party against the other in a romantic relationship. In many countries, domestic violence is a crime, but in some countries it is not. Algeria, Burkina Faso, Latvia and the Russian Federation are some of the countries where it is not a crime. Domestic violence takes place among the poor, the middle class, and the wealthy. It is carried out and inflicted on both the educated and the uneducated. However, whether it is a crime or not, anyone who has left an abusive relationship will need to heal. The following are some suggestions to help in this process.
watch a comedy movie
At first, this can be difficult to do, especially if you have spent many years serving the needs and desires of the abusive partner. However, taking care of yourself can be done. So, you can take care of yourself by taking time to watch a comedy movie at home. After choosing a movie that you and no one else want to see, sit down with or without some food and watch the movie without interruption.
While watching it, when your funny bone is tickled, laugh out loud, but be careful, your laughter may turn to tears and that’s okay. Cry, if necessary, will also be helpful.
plant a garden
Plant a garden if you have access to land, but if you don’t have access to land, but do have access to an area where gardening pots can be placed, use those instead. Plant a flower, a fruit, a vegetable or whatever garden you would like to have. It doesn’t have to be a big or small garden, just one that you are happy with.
This activity can help calm your thoughts and feelings, and sometimes after gardening, you may even walk away with the answers to questions that have been troubling you.
go on vacation
This is one of the main ones and you may not be able to do it right away. If money is not a problem, other obligations such as work, children’s schooling, etc. it can affect you. Therefore, whenever possible, take a vacation. You can visit a country you have always wanted to visit or you can revisit a place you have been. On the other hand, vacations do not have to be in another country, it can be a “staycation”, as some would say. That is, vacation in the country in which you live.
It doesn’t matter where you go, the important thing is that you stay away for at least three days and allow yourself to enjoy this vacation.
The ones that will build you up
Stand by and stay close to those who will build you up and not tear you down. Of course, this is self-explanatory, but it may be easier said than done. However, it can be done, but sometimes it will take time.
Spend time with those who would and are trying to build you up and not tear you down. Don’t put off spending time with them. Talk to them on the phone, on a computer, and definitely in person.
it takes time
Do not force healing. Everyone heals at their own pace, so don’t compare yourself to others. The healing process for one person may take a year, while for another it may take five years, but what matters is that you heal, then keep healing. Heal at your own pace.
A victim of domestic violence does not need anyone to tell her what the crushing of spirit, soul and body of such violence can be like. Therefore, healing is necessary after leaving such a situation.
Watch a comedy movie, plant a garden, go on vacation, surround yourself with those who will strengthen you and give you time to heal.
