Father’s Wounds: Can a man lose his will to live if he had an abusive father?

Although a man has been given the gift of life, that does not mean that he sees life as a gift. If asked to share his thoughts on life, he might say that it is more of a curse than a gift.

But, even if this wasn’t something that was going to come out of his mouth, it might be what would if he were able to articulate his experience. Either way, what this goes to show is that he doesn’t live a life full of joy, pleasure, love, and connection.

a troubled existence

In general, he could feel depressed and even very depressed, making it a challenge for him to get out of bed. During these times, he may not be able to think of a reason to get up.

What might make you move is the fear of what will happen if you don’t get out of bed and get moving. So this could show that you fear losing your job if you stay where you were.

Going through the motions

However, this might not be a job that brings you any level of satisfaction; I might find it destroyer of the soul. It could be a job that doesn’t require much thought, so you could be running on autopilot most of the day.

Aside from the money and maybe the human connection, it won’t do much for him. When you’re there, you might look forward to the end of the day and maybe the weekend, if you only work during the week.

Zone out

When you have free time, you may not make the most of the free time you have. So this will mean that you will not do what you can to improve your life in any way, you can only participate in different escapes.

So you might watch a lot of TV, eat a lot of junk food, and spend time with people who are very similar. From the outside, it may look like he’s wasting his life, but he won’t want to be here anyway, so he won’t appreciate his life and himself.

another reality

When a man experiences life in this way, it could be said that he has given in to how he feels. However, even if a man is like that, it does not mean that he will not do everything possible to run away from what happens to him.

Consequently, you will rely on your willpower to drive you forward and this may allow you to appear the opposite of what you really are. Still, this is not to say that this is something that will occur consciously, as it may be something that occurs unconsciously.

a different answer

What this means, then, is that if the man above spends a lot of time in his parasympathetic nervous system, this man spends a lot of time in his sympathetic nervous system. The former will often be in a passive and helpless state and the latter will spend a lot of time in an active and hopeful state.

Thanks to this, you usually won’t have a hard time getting out of bed and grabbing life by the horns, so to speak. You could have a fulfilling job, spend a lot of time ‘growing’, and have several friends.

A step

However, from time to time something can happen that knocks you down and makes it difficult for you to get out of bed. When this happens, he will be almost identical to the other man.

It will be like an inflatable toy that has been pricked by a needle; will be on your knees. It will be as if you have a power button on your back and this button has been pressed.

The trigger

As for why he will be like this, it could show that he has experienced some kind of setback. For example, he may have been rejected, had a breakup, been fired, or failed to accomplish a certain goal.

What this probably illustrates is that while he will appear to be very different from the man mentioned above, he only has the ability to keep his true feelings or inner reality in check. Once he breaks through this surface level, he will fall into what he has been trying so hard to avoid.

a brutal experience

Regardless of whether a man is always depressed or falls off from time to time, once his mind power is no longer sufficient and his defenses are broken, he will not have the will to live. He will be in a lot of pain and will not be able to see a way out.

Calling it a day and ending his life may be seen as the only way he can break free from the emotional hell he finds himself in. At this point, it may seem strange why he would feel this way.

What’s going on?

What this might show is that his early years were not very nurturing, this being a time when he was physically hurt by his father. The person he would have looked to to love, protect and guide him would have deeply traumatized him.

To top it off, he would not have been able to fight back or defend himself and would not have been able to escape. He just had to put up with what was happening and he would have lost the will or desire to be alive.
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a natural result

However, if this is what was happening in his home, an environment where he was supposed to be safe and cared for, it is not a surprise. To handle what was happening, a part of him would have died.

Then he would have been physically there, but a large part of his being would have given up. Now that he is an adult, what he was will now be an internal part of him and he will be like a heavy weight.

Awareness

If a man can relate to this and is ready to turn his life around, he may need to seek outside support. This is something that can be provided with the help of a therapist or healer.